My last blog post has elicited all sorts of ideas and discussions.
Let's have a moment of joy for how easy it is to share and connect with people about ideas right now.
I have received texts, phone calls, and emails with thoughts on the issue of being lost and suggestions of what I could do. I have also had lunch, breakfast, and another outing scheduled for tomorrow to help process through this.
My tribe is the best.
Get a good tribe.
I can be your tribe if you need one.
We can do this.
Turns out, this is extremely common. Most of the women I heard from either did struggle or are struggling with finding their place. Wanting more, but not sure what that more is or how to get it without sacrificing their current role of Mom/Worker/Both.
Or their small slices of freedom.
I'm not burdened with much freedom currently so I don't have an struggle with giving up all my free time. I guess that is a perk right now.
Thank you Max!
I didn't feel insecure about feeling lost, I am usually quite comfortable in my challenges, but it is always nice to know that you are not the only person trying to find your way.
Unfortunately now I am in a race against all these other lost moms to find the most amazing thing to do before they find it and steal it from me and I am a total loser.
Nothing fuels a better world than the scarcity mentality.
Obviously I am kidding.
I'm not in a race with anyone because I have no idea what I would be racing them toward. I'm not a huge fan of racing in general so I'm perfectly content to settle in for this journey of self discovery, potentially ending with me just readjusting to where I am.
I really am quite the go-getter. Endless ambition right here.
I know you are dying to know the suggestions.
Run for School Board
Volunteer for School in some formal capacity
Revamp my Arbonne business
Help Friends with their current business
Go back to Law School - thank you Tractor
I also went shopping with a few friends yesterday (yes, current life has it's fantastic days,) and I did see this outside Anthropolgie.
I think we can all agree that me getting a job at Anthro would have catastrophic consequences on my marriage though, and I really like my husband.
Since I would be paying for childcare, plus spending every dollar I made, plus $1000, to purchase intricately knitted shawls and bohemian looking dresses that would make me want to run in a field...which I would never have time to do because I would be working retail around the holidays and my kids would be sad because we couldn't do any of the things we usually don't do anyway but they feel sad about suddenly because I am helping people buy clothes while they hang with a babysitter and fuel my guilt about never making homemade mac and cheese that I didn't make before I started at Anthro but now truly can't happen because I would never fit in my discounted AG jeans after eating that crap and Alex would be sad because he loved those jeans and now has to counsel our previously well-adjusted kids on why their Mom is always at the store instead of making their lives perfect.
I wonder if I would get a headset though?
I really, really want a headset in whatever I end up doing.
Ok, Anthropologie just isn't a good fit.
A friend of mine leads life balance retreats for women and she sent me some info on that, which did sound like a good idea. Check out the link below.
We could all do one together.
These are based on a book by Renee Trudeau called The Mother's Guide to Self-Renewal so check that out if you feel called to do so. Word on the street is that it's amazing.
She also told me about a fiction book that deals with this topic called The Ten Year Nap by Meg Wolitzer. Unfortunately she doesn't recommend the book as a good read, but the title is just so perfect.
I keep thinking about that title.
This phase in life is like a really long nap for your brain and your sense of self, that totally exhausts you. I have reached that ten year mark of doing this gig and am yearning to wake up, but Max.
Always, but Max.
I want to steal her title and write a better book. Perhaps The Eleven Year Nap has a certain ring to it?
Keep the ideas coming folks, please.
I'm honored and excited to hear when anyone is thinking about this sort of journey of re-self discovery....for me or one you are on for yourself.
I'm going to keep listening and being open. I'll keep writing.
I'm also starting something random with my friend Judy because we amuse ourselves with our discussions. Perhaps you'll find them amusing and relatable too?
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Or not...you never know.