Friday, May 27, 2011

Sad Stuff and Fluffy Stuff - Five Question Friday

A family friend unexpectedly passed away Wednesday night and I just can't stop thinking about the profound sadness of it all.  My age-ish, married, a little boy and such a good guy. Such an amazing guy.

I love his family and my heart breaks for all that they are having to go through right now.  I can't imagine walking through this type of grief and I pray for their strength, for their courage and for whatever else they need during this time...I don't even know.

Any time something like this happens I find myself unable to focus on other things, I stop in the middle of ordinary tasks like pouring a glass of tea and wonder how his wife is doing.  How his Mom and Dad are coping. I wonder about that little boy.

Oh that little boy.  I know a lot of people that have lost parents at a young age and it's affected all of them differently, but it's all sad. I pray he'll feel how loved he is by all the amazing people in his family and know his father's love through them.  I'm confident he will, but it still makes me so sad.

So, I spent most of yesterday with a pit in my stomach.  I fiercely watched my children at the pool, I was unapologetically smothering them in affection and attention yesterday, and I anxiously awaited Alex's arrival home from work so I could kiss him and thank him for being such a amazing husband and father.

It's also possible that I caused a whole lot of pain by letting Aiden and Cole jump off our ottoman onto bean bags and one another because I was caught up in being Fun Mommy and they bashed heads.  It wasn't pretty.

So, today, love your people.  Tell them. Show them. Feel grateful for them.

And on a lighter note. I'm participating in Five Questions Friday for the first time.

I think you'll agree I'm really good at this.

1. Do you apologize to your kids?

Does a pig fart? 

I actually don't know if a pig farts, but it seems that if any animal were prone to have flatulence, a pig would be near the top of the list. 

So, of course I apologize to my kids. I wrongly accuse them of things.  I say something unkind. I'm human, right?  I freak out all the time and it require apologizing.  I am really trying to work on how frustrated I can get, but I am really hoping my kids will hurry up and just become fully functioning people that stop doing things like screaming and spitting on the floor because they can't watch Busytown.  Until that happens, I keep apologizing.
They deserve it and I like to think that I'm teaching them a valuable lesson of the importance of admitting when you are wrong, accepting responsibility and owning their mistakes.  I apparently believe I'm really inspiring them.

Dare to dream.

2. What color are your nails right now?

Toes are bright pink.  I forget the name, but it's one of those fun OPI names that makes me want to paint everything with the color so I can say the name over and over again when people ask me.

Fingernails are natural because I don't have time or money for a manicure and doing it myself is against the rules of nature.  Also, they look like Stella could have been painting my nails when I'm done and surprisingly, that means they look pretty darn crappy.

3. When you were growing up, how difficult was it for you to stay home from school sick? (As in, did you have to vomit or just say "I don't feel good".)

I basically had to have the Ebola virus or be unable to walk without falling down or vomiting.  My parents were not of the, "let's give her a day off" variety but more, "you'll feel fine once you start moving" team. 

My husband's experience  (not that you asked) was exactly the opposite.  If he mentioned he didn't feel like going, he could be home.  His parents also always sided with him rather than the teacher in all school related controversy where as mine basically assumed the teacher was always right.

I lean toward being more like my parents.  I'm obviously the better person.

4. When is the last time you bought a new comforter for your bed?

A year and a half ago when we moved into our new house.  If you wonder what it looks like, which I am sure you are dying to know, just watch Modern Family.  The Dunphey's (sp?) have the exact same one, which basically means our bed is famous.  At least that's how I see it.

5. Favorite website(s)?

Seriously?  I basically read a million blogs that I couldn't possibly list all of them here.  Refer to my I Read This Stuff page on my blog, which I actually need to update.  So, check it out in a few days.
Other things I frequent?  Amazon, Facebook, Lands End (I'm old!), Piperlime (to dream), and Google to find answers to everything in my life.  Seriously, everything you need is there.


Dwija {House Unseen} said...

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Breaks my heart, that family having to go on without them....

And on a lighter note, have you even SEEN the amazing various clearance sections of the Land's End website? On the Counter? Incredible! I'm old too!

Amy Pollak said...

I'm feeling exactly the same way. You said it all perfectly. I can't get it out of my mind. I ache for my dear friend losing a brother, and for his mom who I also adore, and his poor wife and child I've never even met. Sooooooo sad.

Cheryl said...

I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. Death sucks and it rattles us to the core, no?

The five questions was fun - a great way to get to know you.
My parents were the same way, I had to be practically on my death bed to get any sympathy from my mom. And my husband's parents - yep, you guessed it. Just like your husbands. I actually would like to be more like his because his mom would tell them to not lie to her and that if they just needed a break, she would consider it. But she didn't like trying to decipher if they were lying or not. Wise woman.

Carrie with Children said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Sending hugs to you and his family too.

OPI "I'm Not Just A Waitress..." is my favorite color. For my fingernails of course, not toenails.