Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Dear Kids, I Have Left You All My Friends

You know that Pearl Jam song, "Just Breathe?" There is a line, "I'm a lucky man, to count on both hands the ones I love. Some folks just have one, yeah and others they got none."

Well, I can't get it out of my head the last few days. Not just because of Eddie Vedder's amazing voice, but also because I am feeling extremely grateful for the love I have in my life. Thank you Eddie for articulating my feelings, I think we would have a lot of fun if we hung out sometime, though you also scare me a little....I'm just saying.

This past weekend my best friend since the first grade, Alissa, came to visit with her husband, Aaron and her adorable little baby boy. It was so blissful.  I feel blessed beyond words to have her. I don't remember a time in my life that I didn't know and love her. She's known every bit of my life, good and bad, and still loves me.
One of the most amazing things about this visit was that this is the first time that we have been around one another's kids for an extended period of time. Somehow with four kids under the age of 5 we managed to have a spectacular time. How is this possible?

I mean my kids are fantastic, don't get me wrong, but they aren't any one's idea of a vacation. I loathe the idea of including them in anything adult like. The truth is that kids at the ages of mine are all consuming. They require activity, a lot of attention for their thoughts, emotions and basic human needs, and perfectly timed sleep.
Since Alissa came with her own little five month old bundle of joy, we spent a lot of time at the house.  We had picnics on the driveway and walked around the block and it was great.  We drank wine and talked and talked and talked.  We were on the same page of being trapped by children and we embraced it. 
I loved getting to know the disposition and personality of her baby...who has the biggest cheeks and the most joyful, easy smile.  I feel honored to be a part of his life and I can't wait to see how he grows into a beautiful little boy. 
I was amazed watching my children fall in love with all three of them and felt so very grateful that my children could feel how much Alissa and Aaron loved them.  I love giving them two more people in this world that they can count on and believe in, and that have the same love and faith in them. 
I'm finding my wonderful friends aren't just a joy to me, but are just as important to my kids. What a gift for them. I'm sure they will be expressing their gratitude to me very soon.  I don't think I could be half the Mom that I am without these friendships, which also is a gift to my children in the form of me not going completely bananas.
Just like Eddie Vedder, I can count the people I love on both hands and then some.  I'm sure this is probably the end of Eddie and my similarities but at least we have something in common. 


Amy Pollak said...

Congrats to Alissa! I'll also always remember her, though I've just met her once (maybe twice?) - but she was there when Drew took his first steps after brain surgery. It was amazing and she looked almost as happy and impressed as I was. I wouldn't be surprised if she doesn't even remember it, but I'll never forget it. She spoke very highly of you too!

The Mommy Therapy said...

I am pretty sure Alissa would remember. She knew that Drew was special to our family. She does an amazing job of making a very difficult career very personal. She constantly amazes me with how much she truly loves her patients....and of course they love her too.

Patricia said...

I was just telling my Hubby how much I enjoyed reading your blog, and then you quoted Pearl Jam. I heart you now. I told Hubby that. That is all. :)

The Mommy Therapy said...

Oh Patricia, Pearl Jam is a universal bond. There is nothing better, well almost nothing better, than Eddie Vedder's voice. Thanks for reading!